Very little attention is paid to men who are in a domestic relationship in which they are abused or treated violently by women. In 100 domestic violence situations approximately 40 cases involve violence by women against men. An estimated 400,000 women per year are abused or treated violently in India by their spouse or intimate partner. This means that roughly 300,000 to 400,000 men are treated
violently by their wife.

The idea that men could be victims of domestic abuse and violence is so unthinkable that many men will not even attempt to report the situation. Even when men do report domestic abuse and violence, most people are so astonished men usually end up feeling like nobody believes them.

For men or women, domestic violence includes pushing, slapping, hitting, throwing objects, forcing or slamming a door or striking the other person with an object. Domestic abuse can also be mental or emotional. However, what will hurt a man mentally and emotionally, can in some cases be very different from what hurts a woman. For some men, being called a coward, or a failure can have a very

different psycological impact than it would on a women. In most cases, men are more deeply affected by emotional abuse than physical abuse. Women who are abusive toward men usually have unrealistic expectations and make unrealistic demands of men. These women will typically experience repeated episodes of depression, anxiety, frustration and irritability which they attribute to a man's
behavior. In fact, their mental and emotional state is the result of their own insecurities, emotional problems, trauma . They blame men rather than admit their problems, take responsibility for how they live their lives or do something about how they make themselves miserable. When men can't make them feel better, these women become frustrated and assume that men are doing this on purpose.

Here is one example that illustrates how it all happens. The woman is mildly distressed and upset. The man notices her distress and then worries she may become angry. The woman attempts to communicate and discuss her feelings. She wants to talk, feel supported and feel less alone. She initially attributes some of her distress or problems to him. The man begins to feel defensive, shuts down emotionally and attempts to deal with the problems rationally The woman feels uncared for, ignored and then gets angry. The man will attempt to remain unemotional and stay in control of himself. He avoids accepting any blame for how she feels. He fails to understand how she feels and tries to remain calm. He tells her to calm down and ends up looking insensitive. She begins to wonder if
he has any feelings at all. She tells him that he thinks he's perfect. She calls him insensitive. Communication breaks down and the woman begins to insult the man. When the man finally expresses his disapproval and attempts to end the fight. The woman becomes enraged and may throw something. The man will usually endure insults and interactions like this for weeks or months. The risk of violence increases when the woman insults the man in front of their children, or she fails to control her abusive behavior when the children are present. She may call him a terrible father or an awful husband in front of the children. Eventually he feels enraged not only because of how she treats him, but how her behavior is harming
the children. At some point the man may throw something, punch a wall, or slam his fist down loudly to vent his anger and to communicate that he has reached his limits. After all, he has put up with her abuse for a long time and done nothing. Instead of realizing that things have gotten out of control, the woman may approach him and say something like, "What are you gonna do. Hit me? Go ahead. I'll call the police and you'll never see your children again." . When he decides walk away, she ends up more angry than ever, will scream obscenities at him .She may even strike him with an object.Despite all these things, men silently suffer all humiliations because of following factors:-

The man is afraid the woman will tell his children he is a bad person or that he doesn't love them. Many abused men believe it is their fault or feel they deserve the treatment they receive. They assume blame for events that other people would not. They feel responsible and have an unrealistic belief that they can and should do something that will make things better.The abused man is mentally, emotionally dependent on the abusive woman. The idea of leaving the relationship creates significant feelings of depression or anxiety. They are "addicted" to each other.